LU-8303 lnet: make connection more stable with packet loss

IB network may lose last connection handshake packet.
This problem isn't Lustre specific and described at
https://oss.oracle.com/pipermail/rds-devel/2007-December/000271.html
as example.
Solution is to make conection established if any packet is received
for it.

Signed-off-by: Alexander Boyko <alexander.boyko@seagate.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexey Lyashkov <alexey.lyashkov@seagate.com>
Seagate-bug-id: MRP-2883
Change-Id: I9bf69fdca24e51a5de06c92e9ad76b4e040c5d65
Reviewed-on: http://review.whamcloud.com/20874
Tested-by: Jenkins
Tested-by: Maloo <hpdd-maloo@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Doug Oucharek <doug.s.oucharek@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Alexander Zarochentsev <alexander.zarochentsev@seagate.com>
Reviewed-by: Oleg Drokin <oleg.drokin@intel.com>