LU-16450 kfilnd: Cancel TNs if handshake fails

LU-16450 kfilnd: Cancel TNs if handshake fails

When sending a message to a new peer a HELLO is sent first and the
original message waits for the handshake to complete. If the HELLO
fails to be sent then the original message will continue to wait for
the full LND timeout. When we retry the original message we should
check whether there is actually an outstanding HELLO. If not, then
this indicates the HELLO failed and we should cancel the TN.

HPE-bug-id: LUS-11310
Test-Parameters: trivial
Signed-off-by: Chris Horn <chris.horn@hpe.com>
Change-Id: I4ed07964d5af0bcc3bdca33c1ea46fd436af2e98
Reviewed-on: https://review.whamcloud.com/c/fs/lustre-release/+/49590
Reviewed-by: Ron Gredvig <ron.gredvig@hpe.com>
Reviewed-by: Ian Ziemba <ian.ziemba@hpe.com>
Reviewed-by: Oleg Drokin <green@whamcloud.com>
Tested-by: jenkins <devops@whamcloud.com>
Tested-by: Maloo <maloo@whamcloud.com>