LU-15081 vfs: set_nlink() is not race-safe

LU-15081 vfs: set_nlink() is not race-safe

set_nlink() is not atomic wrt race with itself and
the following warning may be triggered by VFS:

WARNING: CPU: 5 PID: 195090 at fs/inode.c:241 __destroy_inode+0xdb/0xf0

It does not seem important what exact nlink value is the result
of the race. However, we need to protect the superblock remove
counter.

Lustre-change: https://review.whamcloud.com/45191
Lustre-commit: 12b05772fdb6d080819b6c213fcd7f8705278412

Signed-off-by: Andrew Perepechko <andrew.perepechko@hpe.com>
HPE-bug-id: LUS-9825
Change-Id: I67bc345b9a9e43fb88d919a83246759d11604b03
Reviewed-by: Andreas Dilger <adilger@whamcloud.com>
Reviewed-by: Alexander Boyko <alexander.boyko@hpe.com>
Reviewed-on: https://review.whamcloud.com/c/ex/lustre-release/+/49452
Tested-by: jenkins <devops@whamcloud.com>
Tested-by: Maloo <maloo@whamcloud.com>