LU-17204 lod: don't panic on short LOVEA

LU-17204 lod: don't panic on short LOVEA

when we request LOVEA and find the existing buffer is not enough,
we ask for LOVEA's size and reallocate the buffer. but LOVEA can
shrink in parallel (e.g. new default striping), so our expectation
that the size must be greater than size of the existing buffer is
not correct. replace the corresponding assertion with a simple
repeat + extra check for a livelock.

Lustre-commit: 8fa3532b1ee887be378adbf9432707b2d8a2d814
Lustre-change: https://review.whamcloud.com/52727

Signed-off-by: Alex Zhuravlev <bzzz@whamcloud.com>
Change-Id: I26ad5091228bf78858f8538478dbcbdb235cddf4
Reviewed-on: https://review.whamcloud.com/c/ex/lustre-release/+/55065
Tested-by: jenkins <devops@whamcloud.com>
Tested-by: Maloo <maloo@whamcloud.com>
Reviewed-by: Andreas Dilger <adilger@whamcloud.com>