LU-13569 lnet: Only recover known good peer NIs

LU-13569 lnet: Only recover known good peer NIs

A peer NI should not be eligible for recovery if we've never
received a message from it.

Lustre-change: https://review.whamcloud.com/39719
Lustre-commit: 39a169cd02738a13866f3b88fbe3304dc20565d6

Test-Parameters: trivial
HPE-bug-id: LUS-9109
Signed-off-by: Chris Horn <chris.horn@hpe.com>
Change-Id: Iec2fd015f6410ab91c6ef7c222cbed0204243106
Reviewed-on: https://review.whamcloud.com/c/ex/lustre-release/+/54401
Tested-by: jenkins <devops@whamcloud.com>
Tested-by: Maloo <maloo@whamcloud.com>
Reviewed-by: Frank Sehr <fsehr@whamcloud.com>
Reviewed-by: Cyril Bordage <cbordage@whamcloud.com>
Reviewed-by: Andreas Dilger <adilger@whamcloud.com>